Miss Me?

It's not like I expected you to sit around and wait for me to post something. I got busy with work, then chores, then I got sick and it's just been one thing after another. Plus there hasn't been much to update you with so I apologize.

I'll start with the site again - thirty-four new messages. Out of these thirty-four I may respond to a couple. Slim pickings out there! One guy said (in reference to my doppelganger) "Has anyone ever told you that this picture has a striking resemblance to Latoya Jackson :-) Uhmmm the young sexy Latoya not the old not so sexy one of 2010 LOL." Another guy said "I see the pic of you by the water--where is that? I just got another boat and am getting back into water sports. Do you like wakeboarding, kneeboarding, skiing, or boating in general? How 'bout motorcycles? You like to ride? I live in Clear Lake, so I'm right by lakes and the water. What part of Houston do you live in?" This is also the guy that has a ton of photos of him by his boat, on my motorcycle ... I'm just not at all that impressed by this. I'm picky, aren't I?

I haven't heard much from CDG. We've been bbm'ing a bit since our awkward dinner at my place, but there are no current plans to go out. Same with AG - he's fallen off the face of the earth again. WG I don't care much about, but he has been emailing me to ask about my trip. CSG (the sports guy) sort of canceled on me for Saturday night - I figured. I messaged him Thursday to confirm and he said "Maybe" and asked if he could get back with me on Friday. When I didn't hear from him Friday, I assumed it was a no-go and sort of made other plans. Saturday afternoon he messaged me saying he had plans that afternoon, but would still like to meet me in the evening if I was available. I didn't check the message until later that afternoon mostly because I'm trying not to be the girl that sits and waits around by the phone/e-mail and be all that available or quick to respond. Needless to say, he didn't check his message until Sunday morning. We might try and meet up again - I gave him my number and the days I was available and told him to call/text if he was up to it. The ball's back in his court.

I started messaging/emailing a couple of new guys on the site, but no plans to meet up yet. I also took the big step to start initiating communication. This is a big step for me considering I was so reluctant to the site in the first place. I've messaged three cuties. I'll update if anything comes to fruition.

I told you there wasn't much going on. How'd I go from three dates in one week to nothing?

The Latest

Sunday nights are busy for the site. Mondays don't prove much different - fifteen new messages since last post. One from a guy working the scary movie angle again. That's cool, but I don't like him. I think I'll just delete him. One guy says "If I see another profile entitled 'lookin for mister right, not mister right now' I just might shoot myself." Cute, but ehhh ... I thought it was looking for Mr. Right Now and if he turns into Mr. Right that was just bonus? What do I know? Another prize ... "I am visiting for 2 weeks and am looking for someone to hang out with. Interested?" I think I just read booty call from that ... thoughts? Another guy says "long time no see." Yeah, I don't even remember this guy. For the love of God, I hate guys and their come hither look!! Also, I hate when guys initiate with "How are you doing today?" That honestly gives me nothing to go by. They need to be more creative. For the record, it's nice to be on this site and not be the one doing the chasing. Granted there have been some fairly cute guys in my "I'm curious" searches. I haven't initiated yet though since I'm doing all right so far. As many messages as I've received, I still want to say to some of these repeats that I'm STILL not interested! Here's a good one: "Hi sexy. You look like my next friend." It's cute, but he's gross. DELETE!

The latest with CDG ... well I hadn't heard much from him since our makeout session. That could be normal or I could be reading into things. Who knows? Taking advice from my guy friend that men want to feel needed/wanted, too I decided to bbm him and see what he was up to last night and see if he wanted to do something. He replied "Are you cooking?" I owed him a dinner, so I checked the pantry and sure enough I had some stuff to make pasta so I replied sure. He came over around 7:30 and we ate, sat in my backyard and talked for a bit, then once the mosquitoes came out we headed inside to watch a little TV - not one move. What gives? He had told me earlier in the day that he thought he might be coming down with something, that his throat was feeling a little scratchy earlier in the day. I blew it off at the time. Just before he left ... at 9 ... he leaned over, gave me a kiss on the mouth and said thanks for having him over. He said he didn't want to get me sick before I left on vacation (tomorrow). Umm ... ok. Since when has that ever stopped anyone? Is it just me? I'm a little confused. I guess it's been a while since I've been in a relationship and we know this whole dating thing is new to me, but shouldn't there be a tiny bit of action going on? That was technically date six after all if you count movie night. Thoughts out there in cyberspace??

In other news AG has been IM'ing me again. On Monday he mentioned that he was still out-of-state until today. He also said that he really wanted to see me when he got back. Today we chatted for a bit and he tried to convince me that I sent him a drunk text on Saturday. It was kind of cute, but I know better than that. I might drunk text and be silly, but I've never sent a racy message. I know ... I'm boring that way. Sorry! During his trying to convince me he said something to the effect of that's why he said he wanted to see me when he got home. He was rather flirty today - it was definitely interesting to say the least. Later in the conversation I said that I had just assumed he'd put me in the friend category. He said we could talk about that later if I wanted to. I told him I was in no rush as I was just taking things day by day. He mentioned that he really liked to take things slow as there was no turning back time or going backwards. That makes sense, but wow ... I bet if I told him I wanted to give it up he'd be right on board. I'm speaking from most perspectives of men (sorry!). Later this afternoon he said he wanted to see me this evening. I had plans to come home, pedicure, and pack for tomorrow, but sure, why not? Just as soon as he said that something came up with work again. I told him I'd text him after my workout and confirm just in case he had to back out. Sure enough he did. Lack of interest, better offer, or truly work-related? Who knows? I've been fine thus far without him. We're supposed to catch up when I get back.

WG sent me some text messages yesterday and IM'd me again today. Yesterday he was wondering if he should be worried that he was trying to date me yet I was on the date site every night. UGH!! I was on because I was talking to a cutie first of all, second of all ... ummm ... isn't HE online, too??? Annoying!! He mentioned that he would be patient and think of me while I'm gone. I keep thinking I have to let him down gently, but maybe I just need to let him down. This being new I have no idea how to, but I'll figure out it. I'll probably end up being a huge bitch in the process, but I'm not sure how else to do it.

There's a new guy ... he watches lots of sports so we'll call him cute sports guy or CSG for short. He really is a cutie - nice eyes, nice teeth, and a beautiful smile. He lives somewhat further from me, but hey, we can make it work if we like each other, right? Our first date is supposed to be next Saturday and we're supposed to do drinks and a movie. I'm excited about it. I'm trying not to get my hopes up since it's more than a week away (still time to cancel) and I don't want to have any expectations whatsoever and potentially end up disappointed. I need to chill just a little bit.

Well, I'm on vacation until Sunday evening. Unless anything eventful happens while I'm away I won't post until I get back.

Been Busy

Since my last post I've had eleven more messages comprised of " Hey there, you might make an interesting friend." You're damn right I would. j/k Also there's "Hello beautiful. I would like to get to know you better. So if u don't have a problem dating black guys can we be friends?" Here's the winner for the week. I don't think we can top this one "i came across your profile from search, i am new here and would like a friend ship, currently i am in USA staying for a week in a business trip and to see my brother who study finance master degree, while i am in your city right now, i would like to have a relation ship with you build on respect and understanding, and if possible romance ... if you agree reply to me and i promise to take care of you....." Riiiiiigggghhhhtttt ... we're going to accomplish all of that in a week??? Seriously? lol Mind you - he's attached no photo. Maybe if I'm lucky and we hit it off I can be his bride and he can whisk me away to his foreign country. Yay! Oh the possibilities!

So ... AG is back. I got a text message from him Thursday evening saying hello and what's up. On Friday, he sent me an IM and said he'd been out-of-state dealing with work stuff. I guess that explains that. I'm still not sure what his deal is. He asked me if I was going to be around Friday night (which I wasn't) because he wanted to see if he could get a ride from the airport. I might have done it if I wasn't busy. On Saturday, he first sent me a message on the site saying "Hey hot stuff, want to go for a ride on my motorcycle?" I replied "Oh yeah, baby!" lol Later in the afternoon he gave me a call to see what was going on. We talked for a little bit on the phone. Yesterday we sent a few text messages back & forth. Who the heck knows? Boys are weird! Not that we're not, I'm just saying. I'm going to keep him in my back pocket and continue to be friendly. I don't want to marry the guy, but I should continue keeping my options open until I figure out what the hell I'm looking for.

Meanwhile on the CDG front ... I went over to his place Thursday night. He finally made a move and we made out like high schoolers. He's a great kisser, but that's all you get (no we didn't have sex, but for future reference I probably wouldn't give you that much information anyway). I'm not one to kiss and tell. Well, not unless I really know you. ;) We bbm'd a little on Friday. I was out of town this weekend so we were supposed to get together this evening, but we didn't. I didn't chat with him on Saturday and today after I got home, I didn't want to bother him. He asked how my weekend was and I said good. I elaborated a little bit and asked if he'd had a good one. We didn't talk much. Either he's not that into me or he plain forgot we were supposed to do something (or something that has absolutely nothing to do with me). Either way, I'm not going to be a girl and sweat it. I was tempted to ask if we were still hanging out, but I didn't want to seem needy or make him feel obligated so I just dropped it. I don't think we're there yet.

Falling Behind

I meant to update yesterday, but I got busy. Sorry about that! Let's start with what's been on the site the last few days. I have twelve new messages. Looks like I've got me another phone number. Woo! lol I'll pass thank you. Here's another guy with his toys - a boat, a 4-wheeler ... ehhh. Someone else has two bikes - pass! Unless he wants to share them and let me ride one? Nah - pass. I replied to a very cute guy with a pretty descent intro message. He hasn't responded back to me yet though. Ohhh - here's a winner. "Looking for a Lifetime Commitment" guy ... I think I'm going to pass on him. He has pretty eyes, but overall he looks like an 80's rocker. His hair is way longer than mine - that would just be weird for me. "Hey honey - can we braid each others hair?" I promised you stats and since inception I've had 105 prospects. Wow ... that's a pretty high number considering I've become online friends with one of them and on a date with three of them, one of which seems to so far be a perfect gentleman. That equates to about a .04 percentage. Pretty crazy, huh?

I'm still trying to figure out what to do about or rather how to handle WG. Again, he's a really nice guy, but I think because I don't take rejection well, I don't even know where to begin. One of my friends told me I should send him a text message. Isn't that mean? I might as well write him a post-it note. lol Yesterday we IM'd for a while. It started off pretty innocent, but then transitioned into how my time was difficult to get and how he was trying to be patient. I've seen him twice and I have trips planned with friends and family and right now I'm making me a priority. If I find someone I really like, yes he will be a priority. But he's at home writing a book ... granted that's work, but I don't have that much free time so I try to squeeze people in where I can. CDG is very convenient because he lives so close so it's easier to do something spur of the moment. Even if WG was a convenience, I don't think I would be into him. Plus he seems to want to move things along very quickly and get serious fast. I'm not quite ready for the wife and kids thing next month. He flat out asked me if I was looking for a relationship at this point in my life. I think I answered honestly when I said that I wasn't "looking", but I was not looking either. That right now, I was letting life takes its course to see where I ended up.

If you know anything about me, you know I'm somewhat spontaneous. My friends and family are the most important to me in the world. When I'm working, that's mostly all I think about and I even sometimes get obsessive - that's what makes me good at what I do. A significant other is going to have to understand that. WG seems to be bothered that I've got a lot going on in my life right now. I do. He also seems sort of clingy and that's the last thing that I want. Yes, it will be nice to one day be someone's whole life ... when we get there, not right away. At one point in our conversation he mentioned that he thought I would make a good mommy. I have no idea why. I've talked to the guy for maybe six hours tops?

On to another subject, I know you're dying to hear how dinner went Sunday night. It was very nice. I thought it was sweet that he reciprocated my game night invite to cooking me dinner at his house. He made a pasta and it was very tasty. I arrived just in time to eat, but spent the first few minutes playing with his super cute dog. His home is very much a bachelor pad. He's got a poker table, pool table, foosball, nice media room - a bit bigger than mine, his backyard is very nice; he's got a pool. He's very handy, too. Spent the morning landscaping his front yard and built a bar in his home just because; I didn't ask for a tour of the rest of the house. After dinner, he asked me what I felt like doing and gave me a list of options; I opted for a movie. His dog snuggled between us stealing as many kisses as she could during the movie. It was cute. He was a perfect gentleman though - he didn't try anything at all. After the movie, he walked me downstairs and gave me a hug goodnight.

The movie left us hanging as if there were a sequel. So on Monday I tried my darnedest to find the follow-up because we really liked the movie. I decided to sent him a bbm telling him my findings. I told him I was trying to download what I thought was the next in the series and he told me to wait because that was "our" thing. After my workout he sent me a bbm asking if my download worked so we continued our dialogue. He told me he'd keep Tuesday night open for me regardless of whether I got the download to work then asked what I felt like doing. I told him to dream about it and see what he came up with.

Yesterday morning he bbm'd me and told me he had no luck dreaming and asked what I felt up to doing. Later in the afternoon he asked what I wanted to do for dinner. I replied with "Paris or Barcelona because I haven't been to Spain yet." lol We ended up staying local since we both had to work today. After I got home he bbm'd me asking me for my phone number. Seems that we hadn't yet exchanged numbers this whole time. Too funny! He called shortly after that and we decided to meet at a nearby restaurant.

Dinner was good. I had never been to the restaurant. We had a great conversation with no awkward moments. He decided to tell me his off-color joke he used to drive one of his first dates away. I thought it was funny! It's highly doubtful I would have been offended on our first date. After dinner I prepared myself for a move thinking maybe, just maybe tonight? But nooooooo! Once I got home I thought about it and sent him a "thanks again" bbm and "good night". He replied that he was actually considering kissing me, but decided not to because of what we ate. lol It's kind of cute that he mentioned it. I replied with "Are you sure it wasn't me?" I told one of my friends what he said and he said "Yeah ... rookie mistake." ha ha Next time ... I'm out of town this weekend so we're supposed to do something when I get home Sunday afternoon.

More later ...

Yesterday ...

... was an interesting day. Per my usual Saturday routine I went to work out in the morning. When class let out, I had a bbm from CDG asking how my week was and what my plans were for the weekend. Keep in mind we had previously discussed meeting today for dinner. I replied with lunch, grocery, game night, then Sunday was free because my other event was canceled. He asked what kind of games we were playing and added that he wasn't inviting himself. I told I him I was hosting and if he didn't have any plans he was more than welcome to come over. He said he'd let me know. Later, he was too cute. He asked me how we met because I think he was concerned that my friends would think it was odd. I didn't care. The friends that were going to be here already knew that I went out with him and how we met.

After my work out, I came home and got ready for my lunch with WG. Again, we had some good conversation, but I'm not really feeling it with him. I've decided he's in the friends category ... assuming he even wants to be my friend. Now I just have to figure out how to tell him that. I'm not very good with bad news and well, I'm not saying he's gaga over me, but no one wants to hear that they're just "friends" you know?

After lunch, I checked my phone and had a missed call and a text message from none other than AG. I have an odd addiction to scary movies and he thought of me Friday night after he'd seen one and wondered how the heck I could watch them because it scared the living crap out of him. I called him back, but no answer so I sent him a text and told him I was putting the movie on my list to watch and couldn't wait to hear all about it. It's hard to say what the heck's going on with him after all.

Later in the evening, guess who showed up to my house for game night ... spontaneity earns him a few points. He got along well with my friends - more points. Positive feedback from my friends ... definitely some more points. It turns out he likes playing video games - yeah, more points. Apparently he cleaned up and put food away in the fridge while I was in the bathroom, too and the mother load of all points - he didn't make a move on me when I was drunk. I remember holding hands just before he left, but that was it. He sent me a bbm this morning to thank me for hosting. Later in the afternoon he sent me a message telling me he had a few things to take care of, but was hoping to be finished early enough to cook me dinner if I was interested. The guy cooks??? Wow, he's really racking up the points if he can cook. I'll keep you posted.

Time to get ready for dinner ...

Short and Sweet

Today was an interesting day. Six new messages in the last two days. I had a few prospects email me again. The most interesting of the day goes to the guy that didn't have a profile picture, but wanted to meet. He further noted "I am willing to meet in a public place for like 20 minutes so we can see each other and see if we want to continue to talk from there." So ... we're putting a 20 minute time limit? First of all, I'm not interested in the guy, but if I'm going to give up my evening so that I can meet him out, he's going to give me more than 20 minutes of his time. At the very least and out of courtesy, even if we're not a good match, he should take a little time out of his schedule. I get it, maybe we're not into each other. It's hard enough though to try to figure someone out after a couple of hours of chatter, give someone the benefit of the doubt and at least give them some of your time.

One guy was sort of cute and seemed descent so I replied to him. His initial message asked how I was doing. I wasn't sure exactly how to respond to that so I found something off of his profile and commented on that. We had a small dialogue going and he seemed nice. He asked me where I worked, told me he worked at the post office, and what, if any, plans I had this weekend. I told him game night and a crawfish boil ... then he asked me what game night was. Ummm ... ok. I said "Well ... a group of friends get together and play games." Seriously?? I didn't think it wasn't obvious, but whatever. Then he proceeded to ask me where the crawfish boil was. As if I was going to tell him that! He later asked how long I'd been on the site. I told him just a few weeks. Before he shut down, he said "Fun, I can call you sometime." Now why didn't he ask? Is that wrong of me to infer things about that comment? Am I jumping to conclusions? I would have felt more comfortable if he asked me for my number or asked if I minded if he called. No ... he just said he could call me. Well I know he can ... anyone can. I don't know ... I usually don't give out my number until I've set up a meet. By the way, here's a shout out to my cousin - she asked me if post office guy told me he wanted to "lick my stamp" lol She's funny! :)

Ohhh ... a new cutie added me to IM. He's a couple of years older than me ... that's cool. He lives about an hour away though so if we end up liking each other that will definitely become a factor. He seems like a nice guy so far. I don't have a nickname for him yet - we didn't chat quite that long. So far we seem to have some of the same interests. I had to cut him short because I had to leave work, but I told him I'd be online tomorrow and how nice it was to "meet" him.

That's it for tonight.

Round Two

Not much new to report. AG is still AWOL so it's a good guess that that's it for him. Current theories suggest that I wasn't going to be easy so he didn't find a need to continue meeting. That's cool, I've blocked him on IM. He can text or call me if he gets bored. Guys are weird ... and they say we're complicated!

I decided to blow off the Cowboy. We were supposed to meet for dinner tonight, but I'm exhausted and honestly taking a walk, watching a little TV, and posting my thoughts sounded way better than wondering what he was up to. Besides, he never IM'd me to confirm, so I took that as he just wanted to get in my pants. No, thank you. He was cute, but if I'm that hard up for a one-nighter, I'll just go to a bar. It's probably safer that way anyway! lol

Let's see ... I chatted online some with WG. He asked when he got to see me again. We planned our second date for lunch on Saturday. I didn't want to make plans too soon; I'm not that eager. Besides, I've got plans Saturday night so he can have me during the day for a few hours if he'd like. He's supposed to get back with me because he might have a family conflict so I'll keep you posted.

I also hadn't heard from CDG since Monday night (he sent me a quick bbm to say hi while I was on my meet). I decided to bbm him this afternoon and see if he still wanted to meet up this week since I still had a few evenings free. I gave him the days I was available and he chose Sunday night. On another note, one of my friends asked me how my date was with him. I said "it was fine." He said I sounded disappointed. I didn't think I was disappointed. I think I'm confused because I'm not sure how this is supposed to work ... but disappointed? He said he could tell on my face when I responded to the question. I still believe that you don't quite know someone on the first meet so I can't quite say yet if I'm gaga over him. As of yet I haven't been enamored with anyone like they have been with me. Just kidding! :) Time will tell ...

I've had six new messages. Two are real cuties and had a nice profile so I messaged them back. We'll see if either leads to anything. I've had a few repeats that have sent me a message which is interesting because they keep writing the same introductory email and it's just as boring as the first time. Do these guys forget or do they just not know how to approach?

One guy showed all his chocolate loveliness (he was African American) ... he was posing for the camera with this dreamy De Barge stare. He had on this gold shimmer shirt with a white background ... yeah, picture that. He had a nice body, but from the photos, you can tell he was in love with himself. Another guy took all these "shower" photos - they were self-portraits with his iPhone ... gross! I'm deleting any and all come hither looks. Guys ... even if you DO have a nice body, I don't need to see it right away - I don't even know if I like you yet. Your body is not going to mean a damn thing if you're a psycho or a jerk!

No date plans until potentially Saturday, so unless something interesting comes up, I probably won't post for another couple of days ...

WG

Dinner with writer guy was good. We met at an Indian restaurant with a very nice and quiet atmosphere. Again, he's a lot better looking in person than in his photos. Does that mean going forward that the cuties aren't going to be as cute in person and those not that cute are going to look better in person? Interesting ... I only say this because I'm still somewhat leery of some of the guys on this site. I'm working on it and I've made some progress. For me having trust issues though, I'm pretty proud of myself for putting myself out there and meeting new people. I haven't been too entirely nervous just yet.

We sat, ate, and talked for about three hours. He said I was cute and he was having a good time. I said thank you, I was, too. We had good conversation and took it as a sign that the restaurant was closing when they started turning off the lights. lol He's a few years younger than me, but he's very well educated and although young, he seems to have lived a lot of his work life to the extent. He loves to travel, so that's a plus. He's a big movie buff, another plus. We talked about some oldies, but goodies and seem to have very similar tastes. He loves news, politics, history - me not so much. I like history to an extent, but news is just so depressing sometimes.

He's a door opener ... good - his mama taught him some manners. It was cute ... during our conversation, he kept twisting his words and said he was flustered probably because he was so nervous. I asked him why and said it was no big deal. I guess I've had so many job interviews in my lifetime that talking comes pretty natural to me. Essentially that's what this is, right? An interview?

When the evening was over, we talked by our vehicles for a moment. He said he had a good time and thanked me for hours of conversation. I told him thank you for the evening (he paid), then he asked me if I'd like to do it again sometime. I said sure. We're supposed to catch-up online tomorrow.

Comments or questions about dating? I don't know if you can really figure out a person on the first date. I think it's possible to get that weird, creepy feeling where you know you never want to see that person again, but what about if you're just not sure? What if you need a couple of dates to figure it out? At what point do you go all in or decide it's time to cash out?

Last Few Days ...

I finally heard back from AG Thursday night. He replied saying his boss was evil and asked how my day was. I replied, then that was it - no word from him since. He wasn't on-line Friday and none today, either. Maybe work is just really, really crazy ... I shouldn't worry. It's not like I'm waiting around for him. Yes, it's quite possible that he's just not that into me. :)

I spent some of Friday chatting with writer guy. He ultimately asked me out to dinner so we're meeting tonight. We chatted a bit online today so we're confirmed, just trying to nail down a place to eat. I really should stop setting up meets after yoga. I'm going to exhaust myself.

CDG bbm'd me yesterday and asked how my weekend was going. I told him what I had done and asked how his weekend was in return. We had a good banter going on for a few minutes then called it a day. No mention of getting together again, but the ball's in his court and I will patiently wait until he brings it up again ... I think.

Seven new messages. One guy says I have a celeb shot photo. Another guy is really cute, but didn't say much. He just wanted to know what profession I was in. I suppose if I strike out with my current prospects I can message him back and get more info. After all, he did initiate contact, right? Let's see ... this one guy writes that he's also brutally honest - and white. lol Funny. He gets points for being funny so I'll reply to him. The others I'm not so interested in.

Nothing more to report. I'll be back after dinner.

Uh oh

Today was a very busy day. It started off kind of slow in the morning. I started going through all of my messages again and deleting the ones that I surely didn't want to reply to. AG wasn't online so I didn't hear from him all day. As a girl I'm over analyzing wondering if maybe he was "hiding" from me online. That's ridiculous, right? Whatever - I'm a girl and that's what we do! Let's see ... I have one new email buddy who's a loan officer. I guess for consistency we'll call him "loan guy"? I have two new IM buddies - "writer guy" and my new Facebook buddy who we'll call "concert guy" because like me he's traveled to a venue just to see a band.

Now let's just see if I can keep these guys straight! Loan guy or LG emailed me a little. He's new to the site, too. Nothing terribly exciting there, but I thought I'd nickname him now just in case. Writer guy or WG and I talked online for a bit this afternoon. He used to be in real estate, got bored, and decided he wanted to write a book. Ehhhh ... he sounds sort of boring to me. Don't get me wrong - I love to read, but his book is about politics and well, that's just not one of my strong interests. He's traveled to a few different countries as well. He wanted me to send him a pic of me since my Doppelganger isn't too clear. I don't know. I'm not sure I'm into him yet. Yes I know, I'm being mean again. But really? A writer? I know ... I'm weird and you're asking "Well isn't that what you're doing here? Writing?" We'll see what he has to say tomorrow. After all I might be giving Cowboy a chance, right? Well I think I am anyway ... you would think I'd be a little more picky. I'm only potentially giving him a chance because his profile picture was cute.

Concert guy or CG from now on ... he likes to travel, likes to travel to specific venues to see concerts - points for that, and he owns his own business. While working for the man doesn't take away points, this is definitely a bonus. Extra points? Hmmm ... I don't know. It will depend on whether or not he starts to brag about his success. Time will tell. He asked me if I had a type. I don't know! I think I know more of what I don't like than what I do like. He said he would be interested in chatting with me later and to send him a text message (gave me his number). I'm honestly not in the mood for new people tonight. I'm exhausted from this week.

Out of State guy (OOSG) messaged me again today. He's a huge flirt! I told him I thought he was a player. He said players told lies to get into girl's pants and he's been nothing but honest with me. I suppose that's true. He's such a flirt though. I flirted back and for giggles told him that he needed to watch out because what was probably going to happen was that I was going to be his online buddy for years, then he'd fall in love with me and we'd finally meet, get married, have kids and live happily ever after. He laughed. I'm glad he has a sense of humor about that. I don't think he thinks I'm a weirdo - at least not a harmful one. It's sort of nice to have another outlet to discuss dates/life and not have to worry about being or feeling judged because he doesn't really know me. He's starting to get to know me pretty quickly though.

I've been asked whether I like AG or CDG better. Honestly, right now, I have no idea. I can't figure AG out and there seems to be this mysterious side to him. Forgive me, but damnit I like a challenge - it'll probably end up being the death of me. He's a brunette, too. I think I'm finding that I like brunettes over dirty blondes, but I'm not 100% sure on that yet. On the other hand, CDG seems rather genuine. It's still too early to tell, but he seems to have his life pretty well figured out. In guess in reality, who really has their stuff all figured out? I know I don't - I might never.

Well I sent AG a text message just to say what's up. I asked where he was today, if he had a rough day, glad tomorrow's Friday and have a good evening. No response. Maybe he's out on a date? lol Conversely, CDG bbm'd me asked me if I was doing ok, asked if I had an ok time last night and if I had any interest in getting together again and said he was completely cool with honesty. Yes, I liked him, I'm just trying not to get all gaga so soon. I'm still nervous about all of this. I replied yes and thank you again and to let me know what his schedule was like. He hasn't responded yet so I will patiently wait until he checks his calendar. I'm in no rush.

I now have some plans for this weekend, but none involving any of these boys. I understand CDG for having company, but AG ... I have no clue. O'well. By the way, I haven't seen any comments yet. Feel free to post your thoughts. Right now I've met both AG and CDG ... it's no competition by any means, but I'd be interested in hearing who has more points and why from someone else's perspective. :)

Misc Ramblings and CDG

What's with guys and their motorcycles?? Seriously? Many of the guys on this dating site have photos of them with their bikes, with their boat, or even better, they're wearing a wife beater trying to give the come hither look (GROSS). I think it should be a rule that I don't reply to anyone that has photos of them with their toys. The come hither look is definitely a big creepy no-no.

I finally cleaned out a bunch of mail I had from my "prospects". Doppelganger sure does get a lot of crap from weirdos. I saved a few thinking I would reply after tonight's meet. That's silly though, isn't it? The weekend is coming up and as of now I have zero plans. I went ahead and responded to someone. He's since added me to IM. We'll call him ... "Cowboy" since he's told me how much of a country buff he is.

So far Cowboy seems nice. He's new to the area - only been living here for about two months. I've been online with him for all of two seconds and he asks me what I'm looking for. I told him I was just browsing ... like at the mall. He proceeded to ask me if I wanted to watch a boot leg and grab a pizza. I'm down with the pizza, but a boot leg? I'm not ready for that yet - not with a total stranger. I'm not ready to be alone in someone's house with a potential weirdo and I haven't even given him my last name yet. He could be really nice, I'm just being cautious. I really should buy some mace ...

He proceeds to tell me he's a really good catch, not to toot his own horn. So I replied with "So am I." I don't think I'd start with that, but maybe he's just lonely because he's in a new place. Who knows? He seems nice enough. So far he's said I'm funny and wants to know when I can hangout so I can make him laugh in person. I told him I could meet on Tuesday at the earliest. Per the trying to make myself not so available rule, that seemed like the best day. Besides, I don't want AG to come back with another last minute meet.

We talked a bit more and he proceeded to mention that he's a good kisser. Well all right. Again, I don't think that's something you open with. I mean, if we're even going to get to that level, wouldn't you not want for me to get my hopes up? I'll tell you if you're a good kisser or not. Why would you want me to think you are and then be utterly disappointed if you're not? That hardly seems fair.

Some miscellaneous messages from the last couple of days: "hello,hello i like what i have readed and would like to know a lil more about you if possible." Ummm ... I don't know about that. I can forgive a bad speller, I'm not sure how I feel about proper English. I shouldn't really be so mean though, should I? One guy asked if he should dye his skin because I prefer Caucasian and he's African American. lol At least he has a personality! I also got a "You look fine" and my favorite ... " I can only imagine what it would take to please a woman like you! God help that bastard whos attempting to try!" Wow ... how is that at all relevant? By him sending me a message, isn't it implying that he's trying? There are some weirdos out there!

On the other hand, CDG bbm'd me confirming time and spot for our meet. Unbelievably excited I could hardly get through my workout without looking at the clock. I was running so late that I didn't even have time to shower. It's a good thing I don't sweat much! I had just enough time to come home, toss my hair around, do a quick towel bath, throw on some perfume, some jeans, and a cute top and shoes. I was only two minutes late.

We met at a restaurant/bar. He gets extra points for taking me to a place with grub. He had asked me earlier if I wanted to go to a restaurant in case I was hungry after my workout ... total extra points for being considerate. He also got points for having a couple of beers and allowing me to drink a couple of glasses of wine. I like wine. :)

He's about as cute in person as he is in his photo. He looks just a tad bit different, but he's still cute. I'm not sure what crazy hair style he's got going on, but he's got a nice smile, nice teeth, and some pretty blue eyes.

We sat and started talking about what kind of work I do. It turns out that the kind of job I do ... well, his company is getting ready to have a need for my kind of services. That's pretty cool. It would be crazy funny/interesting if I ended up working at his business. We talked about all the places we've traveled to with work. He's been to many of the same countries that I've been to so we had quite a few stories to share on that front. He mentioned that one of his favorite places/countries is the same as mine and he's been to just about every continent that I've been to ... way cool.

We got the why we got divorced talk out of the way. I was comfortable. We had a great "meet". He asked me what I was looking for on this site - why I signed up. I told him it was sort of by accident and honestly I wasn't "looking" for anything. I was just going through the motions seeing what was out there and that I was perfectly content being single. I wasn't looking for a husband - been there, done that. I wasn't looking for a "good time" either ... I was just out and about trying to be social. He accepted that. He told me I was his fourth date from the site ... that his mother actually got him on to the site because she had met a few people on there.

We ended the evening after a good two and a half hour non-stop conversation. I think he's definitely worth seeing again. Any questions, feel free to ask. I'm not sure I covered everything. I forgot to ask him what kind of music or movies he liked. Next time I suppose. Like AG he's divorced with no kids. We talked about his bonus points for posing with the dog and he showed me a picture of his "baby". All was good and positive. He said he was having a friend come into town this weekend, but maybe next week we could get together. I said that sounded good and he leaned in for a hug. It was a good, tight hug, too.

I'm looking forward to see what tomorrow brings with all this business!

Boys, Boys, Boys

So check this out. This weekend AG added me to Facebook, right? I didn't really troll around too much. I looked at a few photos and found out that he'd been in a relationship recently as per FB. That's the thing about FB, huh? You really can't have very many secrets.

Yesterday I got a little bored at work and decided to read his wall posts. This is what I get for being nosy ... I discovered a message on his wall from someone I used to hang out with a few years ago. She doesn't exactly have the best reputation so imagine my surprise when I saw they knew each other. Talk about being bothered! It's too soon to bring it up, but I don't know if I can handle dating someone that's most likely slept with her. I have a friend that still talks to her on occasion, so I figured I'd ask her if she had any scoop. Lo and behold my worst suspicions were confirmed. They're no longer FB buddies so I don't think there's any way of her knowing we know each other, yikes. One of my friends says that the past is the past and if I end up really liking this guy I should give him the benefit of the doubt and ask him to take a " test". lol I don't know ... it's just such a small world.

Today was an interesting day. I woke up in a great mood, did a little workout, got to the office and chatted a bit online with AG. We talked a bit throughout the day, mostly work stuff. We're both fairly busy right now so we didn't talk too much. He did ask me if I was available tonight. Against my own judgment I said I was available. I need to learn how to say no - what's wrong with me? First of all I was tired, secondly I really needed to get my rest. Regardless, I didn't want to say no to the company.

He asked me to meet him at a smoothie shop. Yeah, ok ... that's fine. I was sort of perplexed because I thought that the second date was supposed to be more of a dinner thing. Again, I'm new to this so I really don't know. Maybe this is normal? Regardless, that's where we met. He bought me a smoothie and we chatted out on the patio.

We started off talking about work and our different jobs. He asked me how long I had been married for so I told him. We didn't talk much about his past relationships. I guess I didn't really ask much. I told him that my ex and I stopped hanging out and honestly what was the point? He asked if the divorce was my idea. Yes, it was. I told him about a time a couple of years ago when one of my client's asked me to go hang out for a concert and I had such a great time that it wasn't fair because here was someone I saw on a daily basis that didn't appear to be into me, but clearly liked my company. I was single, yet I wasn't. When you get to that realization that someone you hardly know wants to hang out with you and your spouse, well ... it's almost like he could care less ... what else was I to do?

Somehow we also started talking about finances. It was a light discussion, but we talked about emergency funds, savings, mortgages, his car note, moto note, etc. It was an interesting conversation, but we didn't get into too much detail. Overall he sounded responsible. We were only there a couple of hours and he did this "Well it's probably about that time." I wasn't sure what to make of it. There was maybe one uncomfortable pause, but we were both tired. I don't know what to make of it. I guess we'll find out if he we IM tomorrow. lol

On to another subject, I spent most of the afternoon IM'ing with out-of-state guy. He's way cute and ehhh I figured he sought me out, why not have a little fun? He made me blush quite a few times. He's a huge flirt. Called me "hun" and "babe" ... this is so good for my self-esteem! We had the most random wild conversation. Given that we'll probably never meet, it somehow felt like a safe zone. Somehow we started talking about my rack then he said since he knew my size it was only fair that he told me his. So I now know the length and girth of some random cutie online. It was pretty funny and no I'm not going to share! Well, not unless you know me personally, then you can ask and I'll think about it. The conversation got to the "when are you coming to visit?" stage. It was hilarious. By the time we were finished with our conversation he said "yeah, if we do ever meet there will probably be so much sexual tension" because we're probably both all talk. It's not that we made any promises, but he was asking questions and I was answering them honestly, so it turned into a little more detail that I had imagined.

Meanwhile, I bbm'd CDG and asked if we were still on for tomorrow. I'm so, so excited about meeting him. It's silly that I'm giddy like a high school kid about it. For all I know, he could turn out to be a real prick. I won't know until I try though and right now I've got nothing but positive vibes. On a good note, since I'm meeting him after my workout tomorrow, he said that we could meet at a restaurant in case I was hungry. I thought that was sweet. See? He's got so many extra points already.

I sent him a photo of me. Yes, it was a very cute and sexy headshot of me. That's one of my favorite pictures. I sent it under the pretense of "that's all I have on my phone" and "you need to know who to look for tomorrow", but really it was more of a "yeah, think about me tonight, lover." :) That would suck if it backfired and he decided to cancel. I would be so crushed!

Now ... what the hell am I wearing tomorrow??

Small Update

Another five new messages for the day. My favorite of the day is "I am trying not to be intrusive, but I am trying to get noticed by you" as he asks me to read his profile. Intrusive? Forgive me, but I thought that's what this site was about. With the exception of my profile picture, I am sort of putting it all out there for the world to see, right?

Analyst guy (AG) was entertaining last night. He sent me a text message asking me what my last name was so I texted him back, told him, and asked him if he was trying to stalk me. He said yes. ha ha He was looking for me on Facebook. He asked me to tell him his last name. I was in a silly mood so I replied with "Why? Did you forget?" and asked if he was testing me because I already had his last name from his IM name.

Later in the evening AG sent me a picture message on my phone and proceeded to flirt a little. He said he couldn't stop thinking about me; I asked him if he'd had a little drinky and he had. Nothing terribly exciting in our text messages though. I just thought it was cute that he was sort of drunk texting. It was mostly random chatter about how my family visit was going and what he was up to.

This morning cutie dog guy (CDG) sent me a bbm. It was surprising because I hadn't heard from him since I replied to his email about meeting up Wednesday night. Did I mention that I'm really looking forward to our meet? I was a little giddy when I got his message. He asked how my weekend was going, mentioned how beautiful of a day it was, and said he was out riding his bike. I know, you have the same question as me - Schwinn or Harley? Well, what do you think? Another guy with a motorcycle ...

If I've accomplished nothing else from this site, some way, some how I'm going to have to get on a bike soon!

Continuing On

Yesterday was a good day! The out-of-state cutie added me to IM and started chatting with me. He is really, really cute. He is now my Facebook buddy, too. If I'm ever in his parts and still single, I'm so getting together with him for dinner. I imagine he's a little flirt and he probably knows he's good-looking; he keeps calling me hun. :)

On another note, cutie with dog added me to his Blackberry Messenger (bbm) ... life is good! We've also been e-mailing trying to coordinate our schedules so we can meet up - yay! He wanted to meet up on Sunday, but I'm out of town until Monday. He suggested since I live so close to him that I go shower after my workout on Wednesday and we could meet up at one of the dive bars. I responded with a most definitely. What is it with Wednesday nights?

Back to analyst guy ... I forgot to mention that he sent me a text after our initial "meet" and said that it was nice to have met me and he'd see me online on Thursday. I replied likewise. After I got to work, he IM'd me and we chatted a bit. I told him a goofy story about my life and he told me he couldn't wait to know me better. I should have responded with you, too, but instead I replied with something corny. I'm partly nervous about getting his hopes up if I like cutie dog guy more. Is that weird?

I've received 9 new messages in the last couple of days. As an added bonus, now when I login to the site my profile says "Sexiest User". I'm not sure what that's based on, but something tells me it might be the number of messages I've received. I'm still trying to find the stats on this site. Sifting through, a couple of guys look really cute and I'd like to reply, but I sort of think I might have my hands full right now. If I end up liking both cutie with dog and analyst guy, things could get really interesting. I know, I know ... it's something I wanted (dating), but again, I've never really dated and I've always been a one man kind of woman so the concept is somewhat foreign to me.

The most entertaining message of the day goes to "If you were a new Sandwich at Mcdonalds you would be called Mcpretty" ... I don't even know what to say about this one. lol The guy looks weird, so I will be deleting this message. My other favorite is "you seem like a guy in a girls body." That was pretty funny and original. What he meant by that was that I sounded a lot like him in my profile. He looks descent in his photos, so I might message him back.

My, my, so that's three new potentials for the day. At least my social calendar is filling up ...

It's a go!

After my workout I got a text message asking if it would be too late to meet up. I was already headed back to the house because I sort of felt gross; I wanted to at least attempt to look descent. He asked me to let him know where a good place might be. I mentioned Chili's and a bar. I wasn't sure what scene he was going for. I also mentioned another part of town that might have been convenient for him, but he said that was too far. We finally settled on Starbucks. That's pretty descent. It's a nice quiet place to meet and hear each other.

I was running a tiny bit late because I didn't have a clue what I was going to wear. Apparently I need to now go shopping for cute fun tops to wear with jeans that are not too "going out". I don't need to show all the goods right away especially if it's just an initial meet, right?

The Starbucks we were actually going to meet at ended up being closed, so since there seems to be one on every corner, we went to another one. I was really nervous. All of a sudden I had no idea what the heck I was going to talk about. It's funny because I wasn't that nervous before, mostly excited.

He called me to ask what kind of car I drove so that he would be able to spot me. I told him he couldn't miss it. I said "and you'll be on your Harley, right?" lol We had had a previous conversation where I told him about some of the guys that were messaging me and I told him about the guy that had asked if I wanted to go on a motorcycle ride on Saturday. We had had a good laugh about it. Since I mentioned it to him, we sort of made jokes about it. The other day he asked me how many bike rides I'd received from this site. Of course I said none since I hadn't met anyone yet. When he asked me what was wrong with that line, I told him that I wasn't really that impressed with what they drove, I just thought it was funny that most chicks think motorcycles were cool and since I'd never been on one I guess I didn't know yet what I was missing. We had a good talk/laugh about it. So I kid you not when I tell you that I pull up and there he is standing next to his bike. At first I still thought he was joking. No, no ... he really does have a motorcycle! Well now I just feel like an idiot ...

So we meet, walk into Starbucks and he's a gentleman - he opens the door for me. I order a green tea latte ... not bad. Of course leave it to me to burn my friggin tongue on the second sip. I'm cool, aren't I? By the way, I wasn't really sure I was going to like him, but he is a lot cuter in person than he is in his profile. It didn't hurt that he was wearing a baseball cap and damnit, I love men in baseball caps. I don't care how unattractive the guy is, the baseball cap does help. Am I the only one that thinks this way??

We had a very good chat. We probably talked for a good hour and a half ... maybe I talked for a good hour and a half. I was very chatty because I was still sort of nervous. We talked about the site for a while and he asked me why I chose him to respond to. I told him that out of all the messages I received, his was somewhat original and not trying to prove anything. He said "You mean it's not because of my photos and how hot you thought I was?" haha I said "Well, you did seem to be one of the most normal-looking of the bunch." He really does seem to have a great personality.

Overall it was a good first meet. Since both of us have to work tomorrow, we called it a night. Honestly, I think we could have sat there and talked for a while longer. I enjoyed his company and didn't look at my watch/phone once. That's a big step for those of you that know me! Before we got up from the table, he asked what kind of food I liked. That's a good sign, right? Do I hear a second date? We ended the evening by him walking me to my car. Since I've never dated before I didn't know protocol or what to expect or do or anything. He gave me a hug and said it was nice to meet me, so I reciprocated and said goodnight. As I got in the car and checked my phone, I had a message from cutie dog guy ...

Cutie dog guy sent me his normal schedule for the week then asked what my drink of choice was. I still want to meet him. What if I like him, too? This will be interesting. I think I'm going to like dating!

It's a New Day

Well, well, if it isn't a bright and glorious day today! I woke up, got ready for work, checked my Blackberry before leaving the house (as usual) and there was a new message from cutie dog guy ... woo hoo! I think I like him! I said to myself before leaving the house that I was going to wait until I got to the office before I checked the message. Did I wait? Oh hell no. At the first stop light I logged into the dating site from my phone.

As I might have mentioned before - I've done some traveling with my job. Cutie replied with "I think we'd have some great stories to share as I also traveled all over the world with my job." YAY - something in common! Then he gave me his email address. Yahoo! Once I got to work this morning I was sort of nervous. I didn't know what to email him with. I finally hit him with "I'd love to hear all of your travel stories." Then I asked who the cutie dog was with him. I was excited when he wrote back mostly because I'm a dork, but I think he's cute and I love that he lives about five minutes away. He responded that it was his sister's dog and thought it would be a good prop. I told him he got extra points for that. When he responded, his name came through so immediately me being the private investigator that I am looked him up on Facebook. Good news - his profile picture is the same as the dating site. That's a very positive sign. Me being the very good stalker that my friends know and love also looked him up in the appraisal district records ... he owns a house. I assumed from the subdivision he mentioned that he did, but now I have an address. Should I pass by and get a look? lol Just kidding - I think I can wait until we meet up. Oh yeah - he also said he would love to tell me his stories so we should get together because it was too much stuff to write. I gave him the first available day I was available next week. Now we wait!

Meanwhile, analyst guy sent me an instant message this morning and asked how my morning was going so far. I already had sort of a plan on what to say to him about canceling, jokingly of course. He didn't bring it up at first. Later in the conversation he asked if I would be available this evening after my exercise class. I told him as long as he didn't mind me not at my best and as long as he was okay with me being sweaty and/or stinky then sure, why not? It's not the best first impression, but what the heck? If he wants to see me tonight, that's all he gets. I can't dress to the nine's for him if it's last minute.

Later he called me on the phone. I should mention that I like a guy that knows how to use it for phone calls. Some of the people I've "talked" to or sort of gone out with were mostly text users, so it's definitely a nice change. He called and told me a little bit about work and then said he felt bad for canceling yesterday. Apparently his boss changed some stuff around on him and he had to prepare for a 7 a.m. meeting this morning. Gotta love when that happens! He sounded sincere and said he felt bad and wasn't sure how I felt about it, but he'd still like to see me. I told him I was pretty upset and spent the whole night crying. He said "but ... you're okay now, right?" lol If all goes well and he gets out of his call on time we're going to meet up tonight. I really should start carrying a change of emergency clothes in my car ...

On the site front, I had four new messages. I had another guy from a different state. He was cute though so I responded and asked what he was doing in my neck of the woods. He said I was too cute not to say hello to. lol Yeah, ok. We've been messaging back and forth. If I'm ever in his part of the country, maybe I'll stop by and say hello. Who knows? The others included two more guys with children and a weird-looking one. I know there are stats on how many people have initiated contact with me. I'll try to get a number for you soon.

If I end up on that date, I'll be back tonight.

Date Night ...

... NOT! He canceled. Nothing, nada, zero, zip ... no date. I'm sort of disappointed. It's not that I liked him that much (I guess I don't know yet), but he did seem like a nice guy and well, it was supposed to be my first blind date. I was actually excited and looking forward to this. Analyst guy called and said something came up. I'm assuming it's work-related, but I didn't ask. Mama told me not to ask questions I probably didn't want to know the answers to. It's not like he really owes me an explanation, well sort of. He did mention last week that things were crazy at work. He did say that he would really like a rain check. I will give him the benefit of the doubt and assume that something really did come up. He has a similar job to mine and I know how crazy my work life can be so I will let him reschedule; I will give him a second chance. If he cancels on me again though, I'm finished with him.

I also didn't hear anything from the cute doggie guy from yesterday. O'well, the ball's in his court now. Seven new people to sift through today. One man is from out-of-state and assumed that because I was Latin that I spoke Spanish so his whole message is in Spanish. I'm very pretty he says. He further adds in all caps that my eyes are very beautiful. If you remember from my description of my photo, you can't even see my eyes from the humungo sunglasses my profile pic is wearing. I think the guy learned how to cut and paste. :)

There are a couple of potentials from today's messages. One guy is in his 20's though and looks young. I don't mind going out with a young guy if he looks older, but ... I don't know. Maybe I'll message him back. His profile picture looks like he's going for the Elvis look. I don't know what's going on with that shirt. Meanwhile, I received another message from yet another bald guy. I like hair!! Do you think it's too superficial to write in my profile? I don't know. I wrote I prefer Caucasian men and I'm still getting messages from other races ... whatever. That's what the delete button is for.

Remember the guy that said he was enamored with me? The one I deleted? He messaged me back saying "So you just deleted my compliment without a reply? wow..." Oh, I'm sorry. Should I have replied saying "You look really creepy to me" or "The fact that you put 'prefer to not say' on the 'I have children' box makes me feel uncomfortable" or "This is a surprise to you? Have you never ever been deleted before?" I've got the desire to message him back saying something snarky, but instead I believe I'll just delete him ... AGAIN. You would think that the fact that I deleted him should get through to him that I'm not interested nor do I want to have further communication with him. wth?

Well, gotta run now. More tomorrow.

Catching Up

Having a profile on a dating site sure is a lot of work. Since Sunday I have eleven new messages to sort through. Having previewed most of their profiles there is only one interesting person in the mix.

Today I got a "wink - hey sexy" ha ha ha It's different, but ehhh. The most entertaining of the evening is "My parole officer and I talked about trying new things on my road to rehabilitation....and one of them was finding me a lady. I got a few feelers out currently, so fingers crossed ya know, but then he and I ran across your profile. LOL! Hello dream woman...." he was just joking of course, but this is definitely original! I might message him back for originality. He was "ok" ...

A new guy popped up tonight. I'll have to think of an appropriate nickname. He lives close by and from his profile he looks pretty cute with no kids. He gets extra points for being a dog-lover. We exchanged a couple of messages and he added me on IM. Let's see if/when he asks me out.

Other than that, some slight correspondence with "single dad" both yesterday and today. He really does seem like a nice guy. Also, I gave analyst guy my phone number today. Although he didn't call, tomorrow is supposed to be our date - stay tuned!

Another day ...

Four new messages today. One guy seems nice, but let's start with the rejects again. "I am so enamored by you..." awww ... my doppelganger has another fan. So cute! Maybe I should post my real photo then I wouldn't make fun? Maybe I might actually even be flattered. This is hilarious though because in her photo she has on a huge pair of sunglasses and for all these guys know I could have a major uni-brow or be cross-eyed.

The next guy was at least a little more original. He wrote that I would never regret getting to know him and he's not the guy my mom warned me about, but "lets just see if you can handle me." lol He further added that he got tired of all the rich supermodels. He added that he was bored so he thought of this as a last resort. I'll show you how I handle you ... DELETE!

"If you want to FIND someone that will make you laugh, think, and keep it interesting at all times then give me a call." Gee ... you don't say? I was really hoping for someone boring, pathetic, and hopeless. I guess I'll continue my search. He also said I could find him on Facebook, too. I think I'm going to pass.

The potentially nice guy sent me a virtual glass of wine. That was nice. I looked at his profile and he looked fairly normal, but another guy with a child. I don't know ... maybe I'll have to make an exception? We'll see. I replied with a thank you and an "lol". He asked if I was laughing with him or at him. Too funny. I replied that I mostly laugh at myself and I didn't even know him so I couldn't be laughing at him ... yet. We started a small dialogue and he mentioned a restaurant and his weekend then mentioned what part of town he lived in along with "if you're bored and feel like meeting up for a drink somewhere." When I replied with what part of town I lived in (and that I'd already decided to stay in), he realized that I wasn't even in the same city. It was actually pretty funny because when I looked at his profile I didn't notice that either. I just assumed that he was in the same vicinity. We had a good laugh about it and came to the conclusion that we're both probably blond. I told him I didn't use my brain on the weekends. We had such a good dialogue going that when he asked me if I was on Facebook, I decided to go ahead and let him add me. He doesn't/didn't seem like a creep. I gave him my real email address, my real name, then he gave me his name and email address and we still couldn't find each other. Again we had a really good laugh about being blond. It should NOT be this difficult to find someone on Facebook!

That said, I'm going to bed for the evening, I've got an early morning. By the way, yes, he finally found me on FB.

TGIF!

Three new messages today. Things must slow down on Fridays since it's the weekend. The first guy says "They so need a flirt button on here! That way you would know if someone was interested in you. So here goes /flirt". lol It's cute - definitely different. He's got kids and he's bald. I think most of you ladies will agree ... I need a full head of hair I can run my fingers through! The second guy is also bald, kind of scary-looking. I think I'm going to delete him. He wasn't very original either he added his name and "I'd like to get to know you." The third guy says "Hi, how you doing?" That reminds me of Joey from Friends (snicker). He's got kids and absolutely nothing on his profile page. Dude, at least make an effort.

On another note, this morning I got to work, logged in, and found that analyst guy had added me to IM. Shortly after I added him, we started chatting. He seems like a nice guy. It was funny because I had no idea who it was as he never told me his real name on the dating site; all I had was his alias. He asked me about my job and what I did. It turns out we have a very similar job so that's a nice place to start. He told me the name of the company where he worked - good, good. He doesn't think I'm a psycho because he trusted me enough to tell me ... that or he's lying. lol We had a descent conversation. I tried to keep asking him questions, but it was sort of slow. I wasn't sure if he was just busy with work, not sure what to say/ask, or if he wanted to save the questions for if/when we meet up. He asked if I had plans for the weekend, so I told him. I wasn't sure if he was getting ready to ask me out or not.

He seems like a funny guy. He asked me if I had a webcam at work. I laughed. I do, but I didn't know if I was ready for that plus I sit in an area with a lot of traffic so I politely declined for now. I'm guessing he wanted to make sure I was who I said I was. Later in our conversation he wondered if I still had people around me and said "I can show you the 'real' me when you are alone". LOL Then he proceeded with "That sounded scary." hahaha That was both cute and funny. Bravo.

After we talked about what part of town we lived in he asked me where I was going to meet him for drinks after work. Normally happy hour on a Friday evening would be lovely, but I have an early exercise class on Saturday mornings and I've learned from past experience that it can be grueling if I show up sleep-deprived or hungover. Besides, one of my friends advised that I shouldn't go out on Fri/Sat night. Doing so implies that first of all I don't have anything better to do, furthermore it sends the expectation that I have all night to entertain or try and be entertained. Dates during the week are less pressure as you know you both have to work the next day so you know it won't be a late night. Needless to say, I told him I was available Sunday or Tuesday evening.

We chatted a little more about the dating site and how long we'd been registered. Later in our conversation he told me he was free Tuesday night and asked if he could take me out. Guess it's a date! Our conversation was going well, so I decided to share some photos - some real photos of me, not my alter-ego. I'm excited about it. I have no expectations so I'm not very nervous, but I do find myself wondering what the heck I'm going to wear.

Later this evening I also exchanged a couple of random messages with scary movie guy. Nothing terribly exciting though. He asked what my plans were for the evening/weekend and then asked me about local bars/pubs and local museums. No more exciting traffic for the evening ... more tomorrow.

Wrapping up Thursday

Another nine new messages for today - the possibilities are looking a little better. Two potentials from today and one from yesterday. For ease of keeping up, I'm going to try to use nicknames in the event I refer back to someone, but first let's start with today's rejects.

First we have Asian guy. He just says "hi, how are you?" Should I reply "I'm fine"? It's not just that I'm not attracted to Asian men, it's also that his introduction is not that exciting. I sort of feel bad for not replying back to some of these men; I feel an obligation to be nice. My friend tells me I shouldn't worry about it though. Time to update my profile again to say I prefer Caucasian men. Maybe that will deter some men from messaging me.

Ahhh ... here's an original one - "Would you like to go riding the motorcycle on Saturday?" Does that really work with women? While I'm a fan of fun toys, I don't give a crap what you drive or how much money you have. I have a good career and I make my own money. Furthermore, my car may not be the newest or the most beautiful, but it's paid for and me not having a car payment right now is most important. If you have a ton of "toys", how do I know you're not still paying on them? I don't want a man with debt, sorry! I've worked way too hard to get where I am and I don't need someone coming along for the ride. His photos gave off a sort of creepy vibe, too. Ugh!

Two more men with "Hi how are you" again ... one's creepy, too. Buh-bye. Come on guys - be original!! It's possible your personality could come out in your message so let me have it. Another guy says "I would love the opportunity to get to know you if you would be interested as well." That's nice, but his photos are sort of disturbing, too. I know, I know .... I realize not everyone is photogenic. There are a few photos where he looks all right, yet there are a few others that make him look like a gangster. I think I need to go with my first instinct and delete. It doesn't help that his name is the same as my ex's and he has children.

Now this is just sad. "Well I know I might not be the kinda guy you date but" ... but ... but what?? Why do men start with that? You're right - if you're going to assume that you know me and you know the kind of people I like to date, then I'm going to assume you're a big fat loser. He gave me his cell and email address. DELETE!

Now here's a nice message from a single father (potential number one). He asked me if I had a problem with single dads. That's a polite and honest question to ask. He looks descent, too. He's in his 30's, not bad looking, but has two children from his previous marriage. He's a widower so there's no baby mama drama there. Think he's trying to play the sympathy card?? lol I wonder if there's an angle there. I really don't want to date someone with children because eventually I'll want my own, but who knows? He might be a nice guy, right? I replied since he seemed up front and honest and his personality did seem to flow through his message (I think). We had a little correspondence and he mentioned he had a sailboat and a Harley. What is it with guys and motorcycles? I gave him my instant message ID in case he wanted to chat. We'll see where we go from here.

Another potential brings me to scary movie guy. His profile is descent and he looks like a normal person with no children. I like scary movies and posted that on my profile, so that's how he decided to initiate contact. Not a bad way to start. At least it's not weird, sappy, or completely unoriginal like some of these other guys. He's new to my area and seems like he just wants to get to know people. I was polite and responded. We communicated back and forth a bit and now I'm sleepy.

I decided to reply back to the guy that asked me to go out for a couple of drinks. He's an analyst and he has no children - that's a plus for me. I said "maybe" and I gave him my instant message ID. We'll see what happens. More updates tomorrow ...

Time to Reply

As I sit and sift through the messages I received yesterday on my new dating site I can't help but think of the warm and fuzzy I'm feeling. Who knew there were this many people in the world looking to socialize with new people? Whether it's trying to make new friends or looking for love - I wonder how many of these people are just flat out lonely. I'm not going to lie - it feels great to be wanted ... even if it is superficial at the moment.

It's interesting to read some of the messages I'm receiving. If nothing else it's definitely adding an entertainment value to my life. I had a scary-looking guy tell me that I'm very attractive. Thank you! If I knew my doppelganger's name, I would certainly tell her.

Another guy said he would like to know more about me and said maybe we could hang out, catch a movie, or whatever I was comfortable with. He also asked if I was looking for something serious. Is that something you usually open up with? I guess that's a fair question considering the circumstances. You might as well be up front and brutally honest from the beginning. What have I got to lose?

Someone else asked me if I'd like to get together for a couple of drinks. Slow down cowboy - we haven't even started communicating yet. Call me uber-paranoid, but I'd like to at least get your name and have a little bit of information before I meet up with you. He's actually one of the first guys that looks rather normal though, so I might message him back.

Another scary guy said he was curious to know more ... might be "fun and interesting" to communicate more - let's find out. Let's NOT find out! From your photos you look like a big guy ... I'm not trying to judge based on photos alone, but I don't want to date someone that looks like he can tackle me to the ground. He doesn't exactly look like the teddy bear type and he sort of gave me the willies. Next!

Here's a message from an air traffic controller. He seems nice, but he has a child. He's rather normal-looking, too so that's definitely a plus. The other messages were somewhat normal. There's a nice-looking Latin guy I might contact. Again though, he has a child.

I think this is my favorite of the evening ... another dad in his 40's. In his message he mentions a family-centered home. While initially that sounds rather nice, he proceeds to mention homemade chocolate chip cookies, Sunday news in bed over blueberry muffins, and helping each other dress for the night. I'm all for being romantic, but wow. That's a lot to information to start with. Maybe that works for some gals, I don't know. I'm not here to find a husband, I'm just here to meet people, socialize, and try to learn how to date.

That said, it's time to put up my preferences for age. I've got too many people in their 40's wanting to "get to know me" ...

It's Official

I'm officially a member of a dating website - photo and all. Me being the slightly paranoid person that I am ... "What if someone I know sees me online?" "What if someone on the site recognizes me in public?" ... too many what-ifs really made me not want to put up a photo. I was told though that if I wanted to get any bites I'd have to put up something so that men didn't think I was obese or ugly. That makes sense given that men are more visual than women. I say that all the while admitting that when browsing the site I'm thinking "Wow, he's really cute!"

Now I should mention that I'm Latin and my preference has always been Caucasian men. I don't know why, it just is. In high school I was interested in two maybe three Latin men at most - the rest were Caucasian. I also tend to like to stick to about my same age. My ex-husband was only 5 years older and I was okay with that. Since I've been divorced I seem to attract younger men. I'm all right with that since I believe I'm aging well and I look slightly younger than I really am. It also seems like the men I meet that are my age or younger are more active. I'm not trying to be stereotypical by any means, that's just been my experience so far.

Continuing on ... the first photo I decided to upload didn't really show my facial features. I thought that would be perfect so that no one would be able to recognize me. Immediately I get three messages from three different men. The first one was a little creepy-looking, a Latin guy. Right away I'm thinking this is a mistake. He seems nice - says hello and asks how I'm doing today. He was in his 40's - almost 10 years older than me, so I didn't respond.

The second guy was almost fifteen years older than me. At least his message was more interesting and he at least introduced himself and added a little humor to the message. He noted "Yes, I'm old, but I still have all my teeth." lol

The third guy was nice. He's an Indian in his late 20's. He introduced himself, told me he liked my profile, likes to travel as I do, but from his profile ... ehhh. He seemed to be the kind of person I could hang out with and have fun with, but probably not date. Yes, maybe he could surprise me and I might really like him, but again, not my preference. I'm still debating whether I should message him back just to be nice.

As I'm getting back into the swing of things at the office, I get another message from the second guy telling me he's sorry if he offended me by something he said to make me remove my photo. I upload the photo again thinking I accidentally did something to remove it. Nope, a few minutes later the photo is gone again. Apparently my photo was deleted because it wasn't a close up. Rats!! Now what am I going to do?

My dear friend and I came up with a plan. He jumped in and started searching the web for a "hot girl" I could upload. The idea was that I was going to say "I wish I was this girl in the photo" then post some other photos of myself so as to say "See, I'm not fat, or ugly and if I like you I'll privately send you some photos of the real me." As my friend searched, he found one of funniest pictures I've ever seen. Not so much that the photo is funny, but the resemblance is uncanny! If you look really closely, I have her chin, almost her same hair, and maybe even the same or similar lips. She's wearing sunglasses though so unless you know me really well, you can't really tell that that's not me in the photo. It's hilarious! Who knew I had a doppelganger out there?

I upload random girl and seconds later I get a message, then another, then another. I end up with nine for the day. One of them proceeds to tell me that I'm gorgeous and I take a great picture. lol If he only knew!

Most of the men were older than I would like or they had children. One day I might want children, but for now, I don't want any baby mama drama. After all the crap I've been through in my life, honestly, right now I would like to be somewhat of a priority. If there's a child involved that's not likely to happen.

Don't for one second think that I'm a selfish person though. I'm actually a very giving person if you mean something to me. I will go out of my way to move Heaven and earth to help you out if I can. I just feel like I deserve to be spoiled a little. I don't want to say that I had a bad marriage, it just could have been a lot better and I'd like to be courted and feel like I'm something special again. Is that too much to ask for?

Back to my story ... the most entertaining email of the evening was from a man who says ... (and I quote) "i see you a very pretty woman you must have alot of guys that want to get to know you so i wont try." Seriously?? That's the line you're going to go with? I realize that perhaps you're trying to play some sort of sympathy card, but that doesn't fly with me! If you truly think that you're not good enough, then you probably aren't. I don't have these outrageously high standards. I would just like to meet someone that looks somewhat normal and doesn't creep me out by their photos. Chances are if I'm weirded out by the photos you take, seeing you in person isn't going to be that much better!

As it's been a very busy day, I'll have to sift through and maybe reply to some of these people tomorrow.

Hello and Welcome

Here's a little bit about me:

I'm a somewhat recently divorced female in my 30's living in Texas. I've never really been a "dater" per se (or a blogger), but here goes nothing ...

In my history, I've always been opposed to online dating sites. Please don't hate me for being painfully honest about this, but it always seemed like those sites were either for promiscuous women or desperate women that were just looking for a husband - I've never fallen into either category so I assumed this wouldn't be for me (the jury's still out on that one).

I consider myself a relatively attractive person and I've never had problems meeting people or socializing. In the past I've met boyfriends through friends or friends of friends. My problem is that I'm somewhat picky. Not because I think I'm that good, but because my marriage helped me discover what it is that I want and do not want in a companion and what I'm willing to put up with. I have a great career, great friends and family, and I've worked very hard to keep my sanity.

I mentioned I never really was a dater. Even in high school, I sort of fell into relationships and ended up with my ex-boyfriend for five years. Like every high school sweetheart you think you're going to get married, have kids, the white picket fence ... even if you are a realist, like me, and know that relationships never turn out like they do in the movies. By the end of our relationship, we were already living together and one day he comes home and says "I don't think I want a girlfriend anymore." Yes this was unbelievably painful, but I didn't want to be anywhere I wasn't wanted, so I moved out the next week. I found out after we broke up that he had repeatedly cheated on me with practically every girl he came in contact with. Way to get a wake up call, right?

I wasn't single for very long after that. I met my next boyfriend in the same building where I worked. We were together for a while, but honestly, I hadn't been truly single in a long time and I just didn't know how to date so I fell into another relationship. At first it was great. I sort of lived my independent life as did he. I still had all of my friends, I still had girl night, girl trips, we still had time together, it was just nice that we were all right having time apart. That didn't last but maybe a year as we had different goals and honestly, we just got tired of each other and tired of playing house.

My ex-husband was supposed to be a one night stand. Again I met him in the same building - at another job. He seemed like a nice guy, we went out, I figured what the heck - I'd never done this before. Isn't this what you're supposed to do in your 20's? Sow your wild oats or something? Clearly that didn't work. I ended up falling into yet another relationship and we ended up getting married. Again I had my independence and still had my girl time, the problem is I didn't have enough companion time. The short of it - we started drifting apart and didn't go out or do anything anymore so we got divorced. Our full relationship was almost a decade. Fortunately we didn't have any children so there was no drama there.

That brings me to current day. I'm in my 30's and I still don't know how to date. While I have no "oats to sow", the last thing I want to do is end up in yet another relationship before I've seen exactly what's out there. Sure if I meet someone who seems like a good fit, I'll give it a shot. My eggs aren't getting any younger and I'd like to have children before I'm in my 40's.

Because I travel often for my job, I'm rarely home and therefore, oftentimes, I'm not very social when I am home so it's difficult to meet new people or know where to go to find a descent crowd. A friend of mine has been doing online dating for about a year now and he's met some interesting people along the way. Following some of the links he sent me for potential dates, I got maxed out and had to sign up to continue browsing. I first signed up with a very limited profile. Now it's expanded to a greater description including a photo. I'm very new to online dating and honestly I'm slightly paranoid about it, but what the heck? I met one of my best friends online, why should this be any different, right?

And thus my story begins ...