Wrapping up Thursday

Another nine new messages for today - the possibilities are looking a little better. Two potentials from today and one from yesterday. For ease of keeping up, I'm going to try to use nicknames in the event I refer back to someone, but first let's start with today's rejects.

First we have Asian guy. He just says "hi, how are you?" Should I reply "I'm fine"? It's not just that I'm not attracted to Asian men, it's also that his introduction is not that exciting. I sort of feel bad for not replying back to some of these men; I feel an obligation to be nice. My friend tells me I shouldn't worry about it though. Time to update my profile again to say I prefer Caucasian men. Maybe that will deter some men from messaging me.

Ahhh ... here's an original one - "Would you like to go riding the motorcycle on Saturday?" Does that really work with women? While I'm a fan of fun toys, I don't give a crap what you drive or how much money you have. I have a good career and I make my own money. Furthermore, my car may not be the newest or the most beautiful, but it's paid for and me not having a car payment right now is most important. If you have a ton of "toys", how do I know you're not still paying on them? I don't want a man with debt, sorry! I've worked way too hard to get where I am and I don't need someone coming along for the ride. His photos gave off a sort of creepy vibe, too. Ugh!

Two more men with "Hi how are you" again ... one's creepy, too. Buh-bye. Come on guys - be original!! It's possible your personality could come out in your message so let me have it. Another guy says "I would love the opportunity to get to know you if you would be interested as well." That's nice, but his photos are sort of disturbing, too. I know, I know .... I realize not everyone is photogenic. There are a few photos where he looks all right, yet there are a few others that make him look like a gangster. I think I need to go with my first instinct and delete. It doesn't help that his name is the same as my ex's and he has children.

Now this is just sad. "Well I know I might not be the kinda guy you date but" ... but ... but what?? Why do men start with that? You're right - if you're going to assume that you know me and you know the kind of people I like to date, then I'm going to assume you're a big fat loser. He gave me his cell and email address. DELETE!

Now here's a nice message from a single father (potential number one). He asked me if I had a problem with single dads. That's a polite and honest question to ask. He looks descent, too. He's in his 30's, not bad looking, but has two children from his previous marriage. He's a widower so there's no baby mama drama there. Think he's trying to play the sympathy card?? lol I wonder if there's an angle there. I really don't want to date someone with children because eventually I'll want my own, but who knows? He might be a nice guy, right? I replied since he seemed up front and honest and his personality did seem to flow through his message (I think). We had a little correspondence and he mentioned he had a sailboat and a Harley. What is it with guys and motorcycles? I gave him my instant message ID in case he wanted to chat. We'll see where we go from here.

Another potential brings me to scary movie guy. His profile is descent and he looks like a normal person with no children. I like scary movies and posted that on my profile, so that's how he decided to initiate contact. Not a bad way to start. At least it's not weird, sappy, or completely unoriginal like some of these other guys. He's new to my area and seems like he just wants to get to know people. I was polite and responded. We communicated back and forth a bit and now I'm sleepy.

I decided to reply back to the guy that asked me to go out for a couple of drinks. He's an analyst and he has no children - that's a plus for me. I said "maybe" and I gave him my instant message ID. We'll see what happens. More updates tomorrow ...